tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post2406247023119560167..comments2023-10-12T01:12:15.932-07:00Comments on laspapi: laspapihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15623856064617482177noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-2310890847561731002007-08-22T12:31:00.000-07:002007-08-22T12:31:00.000-07:00@ emi- ok, you've had a culture clash thing with t...@ emi- ok, you've had a culture clash thing with the MTV generation. <BR/>"it's putting the twins out in the heat or cold i have a problem with"- this made me smile. I think the world's going back to the "swinging sixties" if that's possible.<BR/>I'm fine, sherrilaspapihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15623856064617482177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-61296448607120703692007-08-21T18:50:00.000-07:002007-08-21T18:50:00.000-07:00hey papi,i dey o, thanks for asking.i was ubber de...hey papi,<BR/>i dey o, thanks for asking.<BR/>i was ubber depressed about the indecent dressing hoopla, u see i was still reeling from an incident where a friend and colleague disrupted a board meeting with her cleavage, another friend took me out to take my mind off things. we left the first club because i assumed there were too many ladies of the night then the next, and the next,we finally agreed to stay a while at the 5th(partly cos we were tired and i felt sorry for his insistence on paying)long tori short, i came to find out that young women now dress half naked and engage in casual sex all in the name of fashion and liberation. don't get me wrong, i have no problem with cleavage it's putting the twins out in the heat or cold i have a problem with. <BR/>i was dealing with two extremes and i just couldnt cope, so i took a much needed vacation. i have now being able to put it all in the right pespective.<BR/>are u glad u asked? <BR/>how have u been?<BR/>SherriSherrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14010927174982585682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-84094712158801568882007-08-21T15:42:00.000-07:002007-08-21T15:42:00.000-07:00@ sherri- ok, I'm sorry for the shopping compariso...@ sherri- ok, I'm sorry for the shopping comparison. Stipulations on the list can be much deeper than "good looks" though. <BR/>How've you been?laspapihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15623856064617482177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-68467894831141687912007-08-21T10:05:00.000-07:002007-08-21T10:05:00.000-07:00sounds supeficial and mighty flighty to me.do you ...sounds supeficial and mighty flighty to me.<BR/>do you stop loving when outward beauty wanes,body shapes change with age and childbirth?<BR/>i agree u have to know what u like and dislike, why and how strongly or important to u these traits are.it all boils down to knowing and accepting oneself fully before entangling with a third or fourth party (he he)i have found that,when one is comfortable in one's skin one tend to attract people like oneself(both sexes)<BR/><BR/>i can expound on this later( my brains still on vacation)<BR/><BR/>ps:i take grrrreat offense to likening a relationship to shopping<BR/><BR/>SherriSherrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14010927174982585682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-820736664106108972007-08-20T14:45:00.000-07:002007-08-20T14:45:00.000-07:00@ vixen- I agree with you, dami. Yet, time is rela...@ vixen- I agree with you, dami. Yet, time is relative. <BR/><BR/>@ k- thanks kokolette<BR/><BR/>@ catwalq- that was honest, catwalq. You appear to have a clear picture of what you want.<BR/><BR/>@ uzo- do you think you could completely discard the list? I think there'll still be some basic core issues you won't compromise. Hygiene, Hard work etc<BR/><BR/>@ lola- your comment was 2-pronged. The fact that you want 'general' things doesn't make them less important. <BR/><BR/>I agree with your friend's thoughts too. Some people desire the very best, which is fine, but as people, they are undeveloped. <BR/><BR/>@ idemili- There doesn't have to be a 'devil' at any time, goddess. Having a sense of self-worth can save anyone from the wrong hands.<BR/><BR/>@rethots- patience is the key, I reckon. Sometimes, we're in a rush and the results aren't always pleasantlaspapihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15623856064617482177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-38681282725214958642007-08-20T14:34:00.000-07:002007-08-20T14:34:00.000-07:00"rethots comments on "fear factor"....definitely s..."rethots comments on "fear factor"<BR/><BR/>....definitely support a list (though, mine isn't written down, 'tis in my minds i). 'tis definitely not worth short changing one's self on ones list, 'cos one can always get what one wants."laspapihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15623856064617482177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-57981589877260766402007-08-20T10:33:00.000-07:002007-08-20T10:33:00.000-07:00And sometimes the fear of the unknown causes peopl...And sometimes the fear of the unknown causes people to stay in totally rubbish relationships.<BR/><BR/>People would rather stay in a bad, but well known relationship than risk a possibly good one. A case of 'Better the devil you know'. Not a lot of people realise that the response to that does not have to be 'Than the devil you don't know.' There doesn't have to be a devil involved at all.<BR/><BR/>I don't know if I make sense.Idemilihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00763485139867070256noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-80310237365242820342007-08-20T08:54:00.000-07:002007-08-20T08:54:00.000-07:00you know, i was reading this and thinking, how com...you know, i was reading this and thinking, how come i've never written down a list?!?! and then i tried to go over it in my head but realized that everything was too general you know, the funny, charming, ambitious blah blah blah. that probably signals a problem no?<BR/><BR/>someone told me something once that I always remember after asking me what qualities i wanted he now said, "what is it about YOU that would attract such a person", not in a bad way but he's like many women (and men) say these things but then they forget to fix their own "home" first.Lolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04212835201334004535noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-8106010509537581192007-08-20T08:41:00.000-07:002007-08-20T08:41:00.000-07:00Well said. I will say however, that lists can be d...Well said. I will say however, that lists can be discarded. We all have this image of what the perfect person will be like when in actuality, the one meant for you might be absolutely nothing like that. Suddenly that list become laughable...Uzohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08546598626824830828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-2804560714699855572007-08-20T07:59:00.000-07:002007-08-20T07:59:00.000-07:00no additionsu said alot that is true.I have tried ...no additions<BR/>u said alot that is true.<BR/>I have tried not tobe too rigid in my lists cos I have this idea that sometimes, you have relationships/ experiences to build somethingin you and u might just findyourself happy with someone that had you not given him/her a chance you might have missed out greatly.<BR/>Notwithstanding, traits like honesty, cleanliness, respect, dilligence, hardwork...etc are a must. Also, I do need some height. I am short. I would like to imagine that should the relationship become a permanent thing, I give my kids a chance...Ms. Catwalqhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06506293561878301421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-50826661157496226262007-08-19T16:16:00.000-07:002007-08-19T16:16:00.000-07:00True that!True that!kokolettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02960387981523354651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-11459964437816205482007-08-19T13:26:00.000-07:002007-08-19T13:26:00.000-07:00Well written Laspapi...it's the fear of being alon...Well written Laspapi...it's the fear of being alone or the fear of time restraints that usually causes people to deviate from their lists...Naija Vixenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04302276568304358530noreply@blogger.com