tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post3969728880900006105..comments2023-10-12T01:12:15.932-07:00Comments on laspapi: laspapihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15623856064617482177noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-85958690534784434602007-11-15T15:34:00.000-08:002007-11-15T15:34:00.000-08:00disclosure about certain things is essential, eg s...disclosure about certain things is essential, eg schizo is not something you hide under the carpet, its an issue that can end a marriage, non disclosure about what end of the tube from which to squeeze the toothpaste is on the otherhand something both parties should get used to.<BR/><BR/>I think the genotype issue is important and people wearing rose colored glasses should take them off if this is an issue. The problems a child with sickle cell can cause, are enough not just to ruin a marriage but remove every trace of romance. <BR/><BR/>The pain a child with sickle cell goes through is enough reason for couples 'so much in love they are moonstruck' to have a rethink.<BR/><BR/>In conclusion olorun a ran wa lowo to make the right choicesolaoluwatomihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13258576621480012329noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-87884053873151436422007-08-30T11:59:00.000-07:002007-08-30T11:59:00.000-07:00Very strong points especially with the spate of di...Very strong points especially with the spate of divorce these days that has made marriage ery unappealling. <BR/><BR/>I know for a fact that a man and woman coming together to marry must be spiritual before physical for so man reasons and I'll explain why:<BR/><BR/>1) They have to have an ethereal and mutual understanding of their persons and what they are getting into. <BR/><BR/>2)Technology is able to help these days in the case of couples with sickle cell traits, the deeper thing in a relationship is not the genetic mutation but our attitudes. <BR/><BR/>3)When a marriage is contracted there has to be very genuine reasons for it and not for fictitious lies and vanity. <BR/><BR/>4)Everyone involved must realise that love, patience, tolerance and wisdom is the spice that should carry the day till God calls them home.My 2 centshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09951849995134832993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-24110629055347450672007-08-30T03:32:00.000-07:002007-08-30T03:32:00.000-07:00@ r - you brought in another angle, r- Christians ...@ r - you brought in another angle, r- Christians not being allowed to divorce- I'm not sure how strong that practice is, these days. I see your point and rethots though, one might never be completely able to know another, and a part of it is just winging it and hoping for the best..laspapihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15623856064617482177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-13241200551445726402007-08-30T00:21:00.000-07:002007-08-30T00:21:00.000-07:00My immediate response echoed Rethots': how much ca...My immediate response echoed Rethots': <BR/><BR/>how much can one really know? <BR/><BR/>In the end, we all walk in blindly because we're accepting a great deal that we do not, perhaps even cannot immediately know about a person. Some that we may never know. <BR/><BR/>That's why the institution of marriage fascinates me, especially among Christians for whom divorce is not an option. <BR/><BR/>Up till now, I've been too much of a cynic to subscribe. <BR/><BR/>But I also see that because of it, I'm probably let go of some good opportunities to be relatively happy, maybe even giddily so...Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00161682859673971406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-29240738127264745482007-08-29T07:54:00.000-07:002007-08-29T07:54:00.000-07:00@ rethots- I agree that until you marry another, t...@ rethots- I agree that until you marry another, there are some things you will never know of that person, but it shouldn't stop one seeking as much openess as possible, before the great step..<BR/><BR/>@ 36"- I'm glad you spoke your heart, 36". Thank you.laspapihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15623856064617482177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-52566259105423123702007-08-29T02:33:00.000-07:002007-08-29T02:33:00.000-07:00ive been trying to leave a comment for days now on...ive been trying to leave a comment for days now ont his post, but the words have refused to come, u know why laspapi. compromising isnt so easy. adopt ke?? when its not like theres nothing wrong with either of u. artificial inserminations is not only expensive but ridiculously painfull and i hear dangerous. trust me its not all about love yes Love is a good foundation but as important as a foundation is, there are other things that you should place equal emphasis onwhen u get to the point where your children are going in and out of hospital so much you have to have a bag on standby just for efficiecy sake trust me u will start to wonder where the love that you were so sure about took a walk to, cos it will beccome such a distant memory that u will begin to wonder why the hell u stayed together in the first place. Wo, its just best to open ur eyes wide, not as easy as it sounds but it will save u a lot hearthaches in future.<BR/><BR/>laspapi e ma bi nu, my comment is rather long, so much for not having anything to say.36 INCHES OF BROWN LEGShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02201483964235747644noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-82573236653132085452007-08-28T15:06:00.000-07:002007-08-28T15:06:00.000-07:00rethots sent e-mail to say:"disclosure, yeah, but ...rethots sent e-mail to say:<BR/><BR/>"disclosure, yeah, but then, what do you disclose? Do you know that until you actually marry someone there are somethings you'll never know? Even if you claim you know all 'cos you both lived together for sometime before walking the aisle (the relationship between you both wasn't marriage then, that's a big difference).<BR/>Eventually, what matters is why you want to get married?<BR/>In fairness, you don't lead someone on and not disclose whatever you know (or even think) will eventually be known and might cause a problem. <BR/>Oh yes, you wear glasses; you don't like a particular trait, you simply might not be attracted to persons with that trait. So, you don't go ahead hoping that eventually 'love' will conquer your personal taste (of not liking such trait)."laspapihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15623856064617482177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-2179300345507973852007-08-28T05:22:00.000-07:002007-08-28T05:22:00.000-07:00I agree with you on the idea of disclosure, being ...I agree with you on the idea of disclosure, being alert, wearing glasses & looking out for certain signs.<BR/>The sad truth is that human beings are never 100% honest. Life is full of surprises!!Aijayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14665725459484396982noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-49326549684084690052007-08-27T10:21:00.000-07:002007-08-27T10:21:00.000-07:00i concur regarding "full disclosure, but can't see...i concur regarding "full disclosure, but can't seem to shake the stigmatizing effect which i think is the underlying reason to not disclose in the first place.i still hold on to the notion that a true and abiding love does conquer all.<BR/><BR/>when do one demand for full disclosure? right after hello?on the the second date? or is it just before the first intimate entanglement? i have a feeling some would say when the relationship get to a level of seriousness or before proposing marriage,if thats the case, should the result of the disclosure make any difference at this point if the ties that bind are strong? how then does one deal with non disclosure items i.e.unforeseen issues such as infertility, terminal illness,loss of limb,sight or disfigurement?<BR/>(i know, i think too much )Sherrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14010927174982585682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-75392173077752273182007-08-27T04:07:00.000-07:002007-08-27T04:07:00.000-07:00Romance,butterflies,euphoria,breathlessness. Then ...Romance,butterflies,euphoria,breathlessness. Then real life hit you in the face. Honestly, life can be quite sober and such a spoilsport...Uzohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08546598626824830828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-30963875499590972852007-08-27T03:50:00.001-07:002007-08-27T03:50:00.001-07:00all you have spelt out is my reason for frowning a...all you have spelt out is my reason for frowning against inter tribal marriages. I say even with the 'Ojos' next door they have hidden issues you will never know till its too late not to talk of the 'Obis' form across the Niger.How much can you see even with thick coke bottle lens? Marriage is hard on its own and when the other 'hidden issues' begin to raise their heads then you are very ON YOUR OWN.<BR/>I doubt if LOVE 'conquer' all cos then BETRAYAL and TRUST will be in the mix.Nonesuchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03229852728142812061noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-403356252338966632007-08-27T03:50:00.000-07:002007-08-27T03:50:00.000-07:00compromise, mack? Adoption's a very laudable thing...compromise, mack? Adoption's a very laudable thing, but personally, I'd like to produce from my own factory. Artificial inse...? Seems the same as No. 1 if you're "accepting material" from other people. Remain without kids? Nah! The primary aim of a relationship might not be procreation but wanting kids is a legitimate desire.<BR/><BR/>@ catwalq- I agree with you totally.laspapihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15623856064617482177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-69372865981951656742007-08-26T18:33:00.000-07:002007-08-26T18:33:00.000-07:00You have to go into relationships with your eyes w...You have to go into relationships with your eyes wide open<BR/>No, putting stupid clauses like ethnicity, height, etc arw wrong but No, blood type and medical history are not isssues to be taken lightly.Ms. Catwalqhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06506293561878301421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17743811.post-31955249386738354292007-08-26T10:29:00.000-07:002007-08-26T10:29:00.000-07:00compromise methinks. May they adopt? artificially ...compromise methinks. May they adopt? artificially inseminate? remain without kids? there are a thousand other options to get around the SS trait. they don't necessarily have to break up, except the primary aim for the relationship is procreation, not their mutual love.Makhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15051394602620626901noreply@blogger.com